Selected Essays

“What Will it Take for Men to Believe Women?,” DAME, September 2022

“Why Do We Put Up With Mantrums?,” DAME, December 2020

”The Cost of Men’s Cowardice,” DAME, September 2020

“Distancing #25: 16 Lovers Lane,” The Believer, July 2020

“My First Year of Open Marriage,” Elle UK, February 2020

“Yes, And,” Amazon Original Stories, July 2019

“He Cheated in an Open Marriage,” New York Magazine, March 2019

"The Sad Boys of Sadcore," The Paris Review, August 2018 

"My Life, Told Through Drinks," Medium, August 2018

"Trying to Kill the Want," Longreads, June 2018

“Casting,” Alaska Quarterly Review, Summer 2018

"Hatchetation Time," Columbia Journal, Spring 2018

How to Not series, The Awl, Fall 2016/Winter 2017:

"Enjoli," Medium, August 2016. 

"Girl Skulks Into a Room," Addiction Unscripted, October 2015. 

Selected Short Fiction

"Normalcy," Virgin Fiction 2, Rob Weisbach Books, 1999. 

"List Maker," Mississippi Review, Fall 1995 (runner-up in annual contest judged by Amy Hempel)

"What'll I Do," Snake Nation Review, 1995

My Old Blog

For many years I blogged about sobriety at OffDry.com. I don’t update that blog very often anymore (though never say never!), but the whole thing is still online for anyone who wants to read it.